How to Date a Pregnant Woman

The dating world can be a tough one. It doesn’t get any easier just because you are pregnant. If anything it gets tougher. Some men will date a woman only if she is pregnant, while other men will not date a woman at all if she is pregnant, even if the child is theirs. If you are one of those understanding men who is interested in the person behind the pregnant belly, then here are a few tips that may help your relationship go a little smoother.

Realize it’s okay to date a pregnant woman

First, there is no rule against dating a pregnant woman. This is decision is left up to the mom-to-be. If she does, however, deem you worthy of a relationship while she is pregnant, you should feel honored. This means that she believes that you could be a good role model for her child. You must also keep in mind; most single pregnant women are not looking for a casual fling. They do not have the luxury of only thinking of themselves. They must now think about what is best for their baby as well. So, you may want to have a discussion regarding how active you are going to be in this child’s life. Depending on the situation with the father, you may want to have this conversation earlier or later in the pregnancy. Regardless of when, you should be open and honest about what you are emotionally capable of doing.

Understand the mood swings

Second, most pregnant women are not crazy, as most men thing. Also, most arguments that could occur due to hormonal fluctuations can be resolved rather quickly with an understanding and supportive partner. However, that is not to say that there will not be times when she is completely unreasonable over what seems to you like a “small issue.” This may be a good time to go for a walk, go watch a movie together, or take her for some baby “shopping therapy.” Spend some quality time together away from whatever stressor has set her emotions off. Often times, something as simple as a small stuffed animal for the baby will at least buy you out of the “doghouse.” Try to remember these are only fluctuations and she will be back to normal soon. In this case, patience and understanding are the best virtues you can exhibit.

Respect her health and the baby’s

Next, her health and the baby’s health need to be her #1 priority. If you are going to be a long-term part of their lives, their health should be a priority to you as well. This may mean having to avoid certain activities, because of the environment. Conversely, there may be activities that she will want you to do with her, such as exercising or walking. Depending on the stage of the relationship, she may also ask that you go to doctor’s appointments or Lamaze classes with her. Remember, only do what you are comfortable with; if however, you intend on this becoming a long-term relationship after the baby is born, it is important to be as supportive as you can. This is even more important if there is no father in sight.

Deal with some emotional issues

Like most single mothers, she may have also developed some trust and abandonment issues that you may have to overcome together. This can be a particular hard road, requiring a lot of reassurance on your part. Although most couples don’t start out with a “ready-made” family, this could become the most important and satisfying relationship you could ever have.